little eagle
Female, age unknown, loves BLUE
Plays piano, played bass clarinet
in school band
Loves Snoopy, Chip & Dale,
Bugs Bunny, Seven Dwarfs,
Forever Friends Bear,
Doggies and Piggies
Eats when stressed.
Loves chocolates and icecream
Gets paranoid easily.
Prone to clumsiness and getting
frantic
1. Go Tasmania
2. Go New Zealand
3. Have a dog
4. Learn driving (eventually)
5. Save more money (on-going)
6. Be Healthy (trying very hard)
7. Find someone and have a family
(trying :D)
♥HOLIDAY PLANS
1. Malacca with J21
2. Taipei!
3. Holiday lessons for Sec 5
4. Long overdue Clarinets outing!
I lost count of how many times I ask myself every week the same question. It's an occupation hazard. Whether I want it or not, these people's problems will revolve around me and to help these people, I have to understand.
Personally, I'm not far from their age. Ok fine, a decade apart, plus minus. Why do they think so differently from people of my age, when we were at that age??
I never understood the fun of LAN games. They complain that they don't have money to buy textbooks, assessment books and stationary. They claim that they don't have time to do their homework. Yet they can spend their time (and money) in internet shops playing games online until midnight. One told me that once they were challenged by a group of adults and they won. They felt a sudden rush of sense of satisfaction in them. And they felt great.
So it's for the sense of satisfaction. How come they don't get it in school? Let's see... They don't do their work, teacher chases after them for homework, they ignore, and fail their test. Experience have told me that kids love praises. They can come jumping with joy to tell me that 'Mr so and so praise me for doing my work!' or 'Mrs so and so praise me for being attentive in class!'.
So since they like the praises so much, why can't they just be a good student all the time? And that's where I realised another problem. Good students get praised less often than bad students. Good students tend to go unnoticed while the mischievous ones gets all the attention (= scolding to be exact). Then... when the mischievous ones be good, they get praised sky high.
So why be a good student? I was a good student. The fact that I was seldom scolded by teacher tells me that I'm probably not a bad nut. But neither was I praised. So what's the problem? Good students don't get attention, don't get praises. So why be good?
Another big problem. It's how youngsters complicate their lives. And I mean in all aspects. When I was a student, life was simple. Go to school, go home, lunch, homework, dinner, tv, sleep. If there's band practice, I stay in school, then go home after practice for dinner. Weekend, I stay at home or go out with my parents. Boring ah? I call it simple. No worries, except probably homework stress.
Today some worry about saving money to get the latest mp3, handphones etc. Some cry and cry when their handphones were confiscated, despite several warnings to tell them to keep it. Some cry and cry when their handphones were lost when we tell them not even to bring it to school.
Some worry about the people around them when they can't even solve their own problems. Education aims to broaden their minds. We teach them to be global and to widen their circle of friends. We teach them not to be self-centred but to show compassion for others. Have these caused them to stop thinking about themselves?
Relationship with others is another BIG problem. Some have no common sense at all when facing a girl or a boy. Some see an obstacle, and choose to avoid and run away. Defence tactic ah? Run away in order not to get hurt further? But how can you run away from a person who comes to the same building as you every day? Face it. Trash it out. If it has reached the point that you hate the person, ignore the person. Note the difference between ignore and avoid. Ignoring is taking that the person does not exist. Avoiding is wishing that you yourself don't exist.
The more you run, the more hurt you'll get. It's like digging a knife into a wound. And does that person know that you're running away? If the person doesn't, what on earth are you doing? It's totally senseless. It's just like scolding a person in the face that that person doesn't know that you're scolding him. It's a waste of energy and no purpose is reached. Get it?
